From Sokrates and his wife to Tinder and other Apps and why Relationships can fail.
They do not have to fail, though.
This text is a draft version only, will update from time to time …
In case I have the TIME.
What is TIME? More here …
What is Communication?
Found via SZ App in German: Impressive, indeed! Only copied 10% of this brilliant interview … (phb),
Julie Gottman : We don’t even dream of that. People who do this are misinformed. This is also why we wrote our book, which is about how conflicts can actually be a silver bullet for understanding your partner and feeling closer to them. Most people don’t know how to argue. That’s why many people want to avoid conflict – they think it’s bad for a relationship. But the opposite is true. They are even good for a relationship if you argue properly.
So you’re still arguing after 37 years of marriage?
Julie Gottman : Yes, and we’re proud that we argue, because it’s all about how you do it. If an argument becomes a battle of who wins and who loses, it won’t work because both partners usually have valid points of view. If one tries to win, both lose. For an argument to be productive, they must avoid the four horsemen of the apocalyptic: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and walls. Instead, couples should dig deeper by asking each other questions. For example: What values or ethics are associated with your position on this issue? Is there a backstory or a childhood episode that influences your stance here? Why is the topic so important to you? What are your feelings about this? What does your dream look like at this point?
The two biggest problems when starting a conversation are criticism and contempt.
And there are a few more, for sure …
More excerpts will follow here soon!
About Male and Female and how they are wired.
Men are from Mars, and Women are from Venus.
Peter H Bloecker
Updated Sun 11 Feb 2025
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Peter & Maria Ines from the Gold Coast in QLD Australia | From my Archive
What means differently WIRED?
“Gender Differences in Brain Wiring: Debunking Myths and Unraveling Complexities.”
Part 1: Introduction
- Hook: Begin with an attention-grabbing anecdote or a surprising fact related to gender differences.
- Background: Briefly introduce the concept of brain wiring and its relevance to understanding gender differences.
- Thesis Statement: State your main argument: “While men and women exhibit distinct neural patterns, it is essential to recognize the interplay between nature and nurture in shaping these differences.”
Part 2: Debunking Myths
Myth 1: “Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus”
- Explanation: Discuss the historical belief that men and women are fundamentally different due to their brain organization.
- Evidence: Reference studies that challenge this oversimplified view. For instance, the recent Stanford Medicine study1 demonstrates that sex differences exist but are nuanced.
- Takeaway: Emphasize that brain structures do not neatly align with gender stereotypes.
Myth 2: “Hardwired Gender Roles”
- Background: Explore how societal expectations have perpetuated the idea of fixed gender roles.
- Research Findings: Highlight studies showing that neural connections adapt over time based on experiences and environmental factors2.
- Message: Argue that rigid gender roles limit human potential and hinder progress.
Part 3: Unraveling Complexities
Nature vs. Nurture
- Nature: Discuss hormonal influences during prenatal development and puberty. Acknowledge that sex chromosomes play a role.
- Nurture: Explore how upbringing, culture, and socialization impact brain development.
- Intersectionality: Recognize that gender differences intersect with other factors (race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status).
- Holistic View: Advocate for a holistic understanding that considers both biology and environment.
- Recap: Summarize key points from each section.
- Call to Action: Encourage further research and open dialogue.
- Challenge: The audience is invited to engage in nuanced discussions beyond binary viewpoints.
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